I think that a death in a dysfunctional family is more
painful than in the functional family.
Or should I say in less psychological terms, the unhappy versus the
happy family.
In the happy family, the mourners grieve the loss of the
person and all the attached happy memories, these memories never ending in the
mourner’s mind and being a lifelong comfort.
But in the unhappy family, the mourners grieve the loss of
the person and all the positive experiences that never were and the additional
grief that now they will never be.
Further, the happy family mourns together. The unhappy family members mourn in solitary:
alienation and separation being a primary characteristic of the dysfunctional
family.
Healing of this situation requires divine medicine—which
is of course of the spirit.
